 Donna
Gets it Right ----
10-26 -02
Hormones and Happy Endings
We women and our hormones. (When I did my spell check,
it said that sentence should be changed to, Our hormones
and us women.) Is my spell check trying to tell me something?
Should our hormones get blamed for everything? The way
we react, argue or even our reasoning, it always seems
to get back to our hormones. Ladies, how many times
have you had to endure the asinine comment, "Oh,
it must be her time of the month." Just once, I
want to lose it when someone says that. I'm going to
hunch over, wring my hands and quietly say "well,
as a matter of fact it is, I also broke a nail, ran
my pantyhose and I just found out that my husband is
having an affair with someone who is older and fatter
than me, now why don't you come here so I can try out
my new set of brass knuckles?"
I will concede to some behavior and mood swings during
PMS. Just ask my previous and current husbands if I
suffer(ed) from it. I think they'll both tell you that
they are the ones that suffered. (I have to giggle as
I write this. Pardon my sadistic whimsy.)
But this doesn't explain everything. Not by a long
shot. Women are just are the way we are, which is to
say, we are different than men. That's not a secret,
but men just don't have to endure the same things as
women. I'm not going to whine and complain, well, I'm
going to complain a little.
The way we behave cannot be put into one all-inclusive
category. I know that would make things so much easier
to understand, and be a simple concept for men to grasp.
Sorry, it just ain't so.
When a woman is upfront, confident, strong or opinionated,
she is usually considered to be a word that rhymes with
"itch". On the other hand, when a man displays
the same behavior, he's considered powerful, strong,
and a leader among men, an "A-Type personality".
What can we do about it? Not much. That opinion has
been held for so long, I even believed it for a while.
But that was before I experienced family tragedy, a
mortgage, and divorce. I'm not nearly as affected by
what people may think of me as I once was, especially
now that I've had children. If someone doesn't like
the way I do things, they're certainly entitled to their
opinion. I'm just not going to lose sleep over it. I'm
open to constructive criticism, and I think everyone
should be, as long as it's just that, constructive.
I can't say I'm completely jaded and cynical, I have
to credit my kids for that. Somehow they just don't
allow it. With their constant questions and stories,
I sometimes find myself drawn into their simple, unpretentious
world. I just wish it were more often.
Women are moody sometimes. So are men. We all get angry
over things that are insignificant. I think it's all
in the way you handle it. I say, don't sweat the little
things. Take care of the big things, and every once
in a while, ask a child to tell you a story. Because
they always have happy endings.
Until next time.....
Donna
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